A recent episode of Novel Pairings Podcast got me thinking about how "coming of age" stories don't only have to be about young people, or books in the middle grade/YA genre, and this theme inspired my latest grouping of books here... They talked about how a coming of age can be a bit more broadly defined as a character coming into their own, or finding an identity that truly fits themselves, and this can happen at any age. A few recent books I've read actually are YA and have the more traditional component of moving from childhood to (young) adulthood, especially through differentiating oneself from the family/family's expectations, but then I thought of a few books I really liked that could fit the broad description - from coming into a sexual identity later in life to finding a new purpose or identity after tragedy.
What Comes After
Isaac is left alone in deep grief in his sprawling old home after a divorce and the murder of his son Daniel, while his neighbor Lorrie is separated from him by much more than a fence now, because it is her son who killed Daniel, and then took his own life. Meanwhile, 16-year-old Evangeline has been abandoned by her single mother and is now left pregnant and homeless, until she shows up on Isaac's doorstep and he takes her in. (The reader knows she has some connection to the dead boys, but the parents aren't aware of it yet.) These individuals, facing their own grief, crises of faith, and self-doubt, manage to come together in support of each other - though it is not easy and has major bumps along the way as they learn to really let go of anger and loss, to be willing to accept help, and especially to confront how their personal tragedies overlapped in relationship to the boys, and how they can heal from that to have a relationship with each other going forward. Evangeline of course has a coming of age story in becoming a teenage mother, but all three have this life transformation in deciding who they will be after moving on from the tragedies of their past. In an interview (this one - a great listen) the author described the book as a "why done it" rather than a "who done it" and I think that's an excellent way to put it. You know from the get-go what happened with the murder-suicide and who did it, but there still is some propulsive plot behind unraveling what led up to the murder in flashbacks and in slowly understanding Evangeline's full story and her relationship with the boys. This combines with an essentially character-driven novel about Isaac, Evangeline, and Lorrie to create an all around hard-to-put-down-yet-literary read that is very moving and will stick with me for a long time. There's some hard stuff of course, with the violent deaths, the terrible grief, the abuse Evangeline has endured, but it is not an overly graphic/heavy book, and the themes of forgiveness, found family, faith, and moving on from tragedy through love and kindness ultimately give it a sense of hope and redemption. And final thought: the exploration of Isaac's Quaker faith was both fascinating and provided some of the most beautifully moving parts of the book. Loved that that was part of the story.
4.5/5 stars - winner of an April BOTM pick after hearing a good recommendation on Sarah's Bookshelves Live, highly recommend to a broad range of readers as it covers a range of genres and will have wide appeal
Under the Rainbow
After a national nonprofit has named Big Burr, Kansas, as the most homophobic town in America, they send in a queer task force to live in the community for two years, to run townhalls and other outreach, trying to change hearts and minds by example. The stories in this book are snapshots over those two years of various individuals' experiences and relationships. This format of connected short stories (think Kitchens of the Great Midwest) was unexpected for me at first and a little disappointing when I hit chapter 2, because I was really intrigued by the main character of the first one (the high school-aged daughter of the task force's leader, who of course was very reluctant to move from California, and also deals with feelings of not being accepted by her mom for not also being gay) and surprised when the next chapter was about someone entirely different, at a different point in those 2 years - but in the end, I thought it was really a perfect format because it allows us to see a range of people, both within the organization and the small town, and how they are reacting or evolving. And that's where I think of this as a coming-of-age type of story - for some of the characters it's coming to terms with their own sexuality, like a high schooler who is finding encouragement to become the first in his school to come out or the man who has been married for a long time being able to un-repress his sexuality; for some it's standing up for their beliefs even if they go against the small town's attitudes, or confronting their religious intolerance and learning to live with the fact of others' sexual orientations and experience; and even for the social activists there's an evolution of their attitudes about people they might have simply written off as repressed or bigoted. And in the end we do get to come back to a particular character who brings everyone together for a wedding, and it's a lovely transformation. Warm, witty, easy to read, but lots to think about and discuss here about belonging, acceptance, the range of sexuality and gender identifications, and learning to live with one another.
4/5 stars, maybe a bit on-the-nose in terms of the lessons it's teaching, but I still thought it was thoughtful and moving and gave me an overall feeling of hope when I closed the book
Firekeeper's Daughter
Daunis Fontaine has been caught between two worlds her whole life: living with her her white mother's well-to-do family but always wanting to maintain her strong connection to her father's Ojibwe family and cultural roots. Now, as she graduates from high school she is even more caught between two worlds, deciding whether to continue her plan to go off to college or defer entrance to stay home and help with her sick grandmother and her mother who is grieving the loss of Daunis' uncle by apparent suicide. One bright spot is meeting Jamie, the new kid on the local all-star hockey team, and striking up a friendship (and maybe more - he's cute...) - until she learns that he's not quite who he seems, and she gets wrapped up in an undercover FBI investigation of a strong and dangerous strain of meth, the origins of which have been traced to her tribe's island. While using her scientific and also native culture/plant smarts to help investigate, she wrestles at the same time with what this all means for her community and the people who are hurting in it because of the meth problem, but also in wanting to stick up for her community to the FBI and not share all of its secrets. Daunis is an amazing protagonist - super smart and savvy, hard working, dedicated to her family, knows her own mind, but also is still a flawed teenager who sometimes makes the kinds of selfish or snap decisions that they make. The FBI investigation will have you on the edge of your seat at times, but Daunis really is what makes the whole book propulsive, as you follow and root for her on every decision having to do with her family, her cultural heritage, her losses and grief, her love life, etc. Like with What Comes After, this isn't quite your traditional coming of age story in that you get a whole range of genres in one, done in a way that works seamlessly to make it hard to put down and the characters hard to forget. Here of course you get YA feels in general with the friendship/romantic interest/starting college aspects, but also it's a mystery, a sports book (lots of hockey), an exploration of a Native American culture (which also gives it a very strong sense of place), and even an exploration of what opioid/meth epidemics are doing to communities. There's a lot going on, but it came together in the end.
4.5/5 stars, snapped up as a BOTM add-on because it was high on my list of anticipated upcoming reads, recommend for people who like issues-based YA like Angie Thomas' work
The Poet X
Xiomara is a teen in Harlem who feels at odds with her family and community, both "unheard and unable to hide" as the cover blurb says. She's struggling to get along with her mother's strict Catholic faith, with the contrast between herself and her high-achieving twin brother, even with her own body that seems to take up too much space and attract attention that she's not seeking (though meanwhile she does have a developing interest boys that is truly a no-no in her strict Dominican family). She has always been drawn to writing poetry about her feelings and experiences, but when an English teacher introduces her to a slam poetry club, she really starts to find her own voice - despite having to hide her participation from her family. It of course all comes to a head eventually when they find out that she has been going there instead of catechism class, and the way Xiomara captures all of the events and emotions around this in her poetry is just mesmerizing. I've enjoyed other YA novels in verse, so I knew what to expect in general - but found that somehow the words on these pages just sang out even more powerfully than other books I've read. Xiomara is not a character that I really would personally relate to in terms of experiences or personality, but wow, did I ever feel like I got a true and beautiful sense of her heart, her struggles, and her dreams through her poetry (also loved that this part of her character gave an obvious reason for the novel to be written in verse - it's like a diary of Xiomara's life, but this is simply the way she writes, as a poet). Other #ownvoices YA books I've read recently that have some similarities with the strict cultural expectations of girls + the protagonist who chafes against or just doesn't fit that mold and is ready to come of age and fly the nest that I would also recommend: Furia and I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter. They've all got such grit and beauty to them, with unforgettable protagonists. Solo would be another good read-alike, with some of the family themes and the novel-in-verse style. And some of the themes related to being a woman and being allowed to take up space in the world without censure from men for it, rendered so powerfully in poetry, made me think of the excellent poetry collection What Kind of Woman.
5/5 stars, picked up because I wanted to read the rest of Acevedo's backlist, and it instantly became my favorite of hers
Queenie
Queenie, a 20-something Londoner of Jamaican heritage, was a flawed yet fresh character I really grew to love as she discovered herself (despite some choices that she made about shirking work duties and questionable sexual encounters on her journey there, which make type-A me squirm) and discovered her voice as a woman in today's world and as a Black woman straddling two cultures. With Queenie you get a coming of age that's a bit older than that childhood/young adulthood transition; here she is really learning some real adulting, with plenty of missteps in terms of managing work-life balance, handling finances, being in bad relationships, and navigating truly leaving the nest of her family's expectations. With that we see a major mental health journey too, in which through hitting rock-bottom and finding therapy she comes to her true identity hidden beneath some of her past trauma (which has been leading to her low self-esteem or harmful choices). The blurbs compare this Queenie to Bridget Jones's Diary meets Americanah; not entirely sure how I feel about this description, but I did see some elements of both with the single woman in London going out with her friends and having bad luck with dating combined with the strong Black immigrant perspective. And in that vein, I read Girl, Woman, Other a few months after Queenie and loved how it had even more perspectives of British Black women, with a range of immigrant experiences, socio-economic classes, sexual orientations, etc. and explored how these women each came into their own despite struggles or setbacks. These books are great in conversation with each other, so I highly recommend the other if you liked the one!
4/5 stars, feels like a more grown up YA coming of age (a 20s millennial instead) with a very honest yet witty tone
Funny enough, as I was writing up this post I was finishing reading Ordinary Grace, which is a classic coming of age story - a 13-year-old boy in 1960s small-town Minnesota whose life outlook and faith are changed forever over the course of one summer in which he encounters 5 deaths in his community, some hitting closer to home than others. If you liked This Tender Land, I would say this one has similar vibes in pacing and style and protagonist - but is even better.
But as for more non-traditional coming of age stories, a couple of books mentioned in the Novel Pairings podcast episode that I've reviewed (and really enjoyed!) previously are great examples of the non-traditional age for a coming of age: The Switch (kind of a rom-com, absolutely loved that one entire storyline was about a grandma in her 80s finding new life/love), Writers & Lovers (a character having a late coming of age, finally finding her footing in terms of creative work and life in her 30s), All Adults Here (grown kids coming back to their mom's house and all having to come to some kind of new identity, not least understand their mom's identity when she comes out in her 60s), and also The Song of Achilles (traditional coming of age as Patroclus and Achilles go from boyhood to manhood in learning to be soldiers, but also as Patroclus, who never fits in with the soldiers finds his own identity and purpose instead in the medical tents during the Trojan War).
Whew, that's a lot of great books (and long reviews because I needed to gush a little) - something for everyone here though!
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