31 January 2018

reading lately: stages of grief

I seem to have read a whole bunch of books lately where the characters are grieving the loss of a family member (and this doesn't even include the YA books with this characteristic that I've read recently... what is it about every YA protagonist having a dead parent?!).  In these books, the grief process, or the hole their loss makes in their life, is central to who the characters are/how they act, which really gives you as the reader an insight and empathy for these characters' stages of grief.



The Garden of Small Beginnings
Lilian Girvan is a textbook illustrator and single mother of two girls who, three years later, is just getting the hang of it after the sudden death of her husband. When her boss asks her to take a gardening class to aid in her illustration of some plant guides, it seems like a great way to get herself, along with her kids and her best friend-sister, out of the house. Little does she expect how it will help her move on with her grief, as she meets an eclectic new group of friends and even starts to develop a romantic relationship. It's all teed up to be a quirky and heartwarming tale, but Lilian's narration is quite a wise-cracking, self-deprecating style, so it doesn't end up overly sweet. A nice light read and a look at what it might be like to lose a spouse at such a young age, and learn how to keep on living even with such a huge loss, and all the added weight of solo breadwinning/child caring/etc. 3/5 stars


Rabbit Cake
Pre-teen Elvis Babbitt is a girl in possession of all the facts: about animals, science, and the fact that the grieving process for her mother will take 18 months (thanks to a counselor's office pamphlet). Rabbit Cake takes her through those months and the advertised stages of grief, from her honest, smart, observant, and darkly comic perspective. As she tries to understand what was going on in her mother's life leading up to her drowning while sleepwalking - and the things that just don't add up about the story she's being told about it - she also has to hold her own in a slightly crazy home situation with a grieving father who has started wearing his wife's bathrobe around the house, and a sister who has dangerous sleepwalking tendencies of her own, plus a mission to bake a Guinness record-breaking number of rabbit-shaped cakes. This is a great read - at times heartbreaking, others heartwarming, and often darkly funny - that explores family, loss, and coming-of-age in the midst of loss from a very original voice. I've seen it recommended for fans of Where'd You Go, Bernadette, and while the subject is maybe a bit darker, I would say it's a good comp if you liked the girl's voice in that one too. 4/5 stars


What Remains True
Alternating among first-person perspectives of the various characters - mother, father, daughter, aunt, therapist, and even dog - this family drama gives readers a front-row view of what it might be like to lose a 5-year-old son in a car accident. The story starts in the aftermath, with the characters barely functioning or relating to each other in their grief, then moves to a later time when they all start seeing a family therapist, then moves back to what everyone was doing/feeling the day before the accident, back when they were by all appearances a perfect and happy family, and then finally ends with everyone at last being able to tell the story of what happened the day of the accident, and through it come to terms with their grief and their guilt in each feeling like it was their fault. It was moving and insightful at times to look at the ways a family would handle a traumatic loss of this magnitude, and how they might learn to move back to the land of the living instead of being swallowed by their grief forever, but I HATED that the dead son and the dog had chapters they narrated. They just felt superfluous, and their voices were inconsistent, and really brought down the star rating here... You want a well done version of a young person's view of grief? See Rabbit Cake above! And good thing I got it free as a KindleFirst read. 2.5/5 stars


When We Were Worthy
In the small town of Worthy, Georgia, where high school football reigns supreme, the town is thrown into an all-encompassing tragedy when three popular cheerleaders are killed instantly in a car accident caused by another high school classmate racing his new car. Alternating between the stories of one of the girls' mothers, the reckless driving boy's mother, another cheerleader who was supposed to be with the girls but wasn't, and a new-to-town substitute teacher who has a host of problems of her own, we see how they deal with their individual grief and survivor's guilt, and also through them how the town deals with its collective grief and the taking sides of whether there should be a criminal trial resulting from the accident. Meanwhile, there's some secret undercurrent going on with how the football players are treating girls, and the town is turning a blind eye... The back cover promos say this is great for fans of Big Little Lies, and I can see some parallels with the cast of female protagonists, and how the story of the big inciting event gets pieced together gradually through their various threads, but it doesn't have that satirical sort of tone. I'd say it's more like reading Beartown or Megan Abbott's You Will Know Me - if you liked those, you'd probably like this one. Also if you like Joshilyn Jackson's books as much as I do, this might be up your alley too (though again slightly different in tone, there are some similar characteristics). Like all of the above, I was instantly totally wrapped up in this story and the characters of this small town - definitely a good read. 4/5 stars


Bonfire
Abby Williams is an environmental lawyer whose job of uncovering corporate environmental violations brings her back to her small hometown, where Optimal Plastics basically runs everything - supplies the majority of the jobs, and the majority of the money for everything from Little League uniforms to a new community center. But are they also engaging in a major cover up to hide that their byproducts are actually making people sick? Having left the town 10 years earlier and not returned because of the baggage of her mother's death and also her high school classmate Kaycee's disappearance, Abby has to take on her own past at the same time as taking on the potential corporate scandal. Her grief over losing her mother, but also of never quite being able to process the disappearance of Kaycee, who loomed so large in her life, kind of defines Abby - those missing pieces haunt her life daily, especially once she has returned home. This propels the story along as it leads Abby to see conspiracies and also to make some poor decisions that affect her job and relationships (like breaking into a storage unit), but it just wasn't quite enough to make the story engaging or interesting for me. I felt pretty meh about it overall, thinking that if you're going to read a story about someone who returns to their hometown to investigate some kind of mystery, and in the meantime something they have long buried in their past resurfaces, then I have way better examples, especially The Dry and The Long and Faraway Gone. 2.5/5 stars



Whew, there were some good stories here, but a girl needs something light and happy after all of this focus on grief. I've got The Music Shop as my latest Book of the Month pick, and I'm hoping it leans more toward heartwarming than sad!


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30 January 2018

wearing lately: business + pleasure SoCal suitcase

One of the greatest pleasures in the middle of a Michigan winter? Getting to pull out some warmer weather clothes for a trip to somewhere sunny. These items are so much more exciting when it's been all sweaters and boots for a long time. So for this SoCal business + pleasure trip to San Diego + Palm Springs, I put together a carryon-sized mini wardrobe of some lightweight favorites that are heavy hitters in remixing possibilities.

 jacquard top (similar) | blazer | jean jacket (similar) | white jeans (similar) | ruched dress | sunnies | floral scarf | sandals (similar) | flats (similar) | bikini (similar) | gray tee | ankle pants (similar) | necklace (similar) | crossbody (similar)

Planning ahead on a mix & match wardrobe with cohesive color palette really helps in achieving a carryon-sized wardrobe, even when it's a trip where I need to have the kinds of clothes that work both for work meetings and for anniversary trip leisure fun.

Ankle pants that are stretchy and comfortable work nicely for meetings and for a travel day, and a blazer can dress up a tank dress and white jeans enough for my (fairly casual) work purposes. And then swap out for a denim jacket for sightseeing and dining al fresco with my hunny - plus the scarf doubles as a pareo for pool time. Game, set, mix and match!


And what's more, the efficiency of this wardrobe (plus the fact that I'm wearing 5 of the items on the plane so they don't need to fit into the suitcase) means that I have plenty of room for workout clothes and shoes, which I always plan to bring along - especially when we're in a place where it's going to be gorgeous views and weather for outdoor running. And this time around the workout clothes can double as Joshua Tree hiking wear... which is what we're doing today!

Looking forward to sharing a recap of our trip to gorgeous and sunny SoCal when we're back.


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26 January 2018

five things Friday: winter white edition

Greetings from the land of it's totally appropriate weather for white jeans, aka San Diego! I was pretty excited to pull these puppies out for my trip, and leave behind the other kind of white - snow - for a few days.

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But since when I return there will still be plenty of winter conditions, I spotted a few things in a lovely creamy white that are suitable for the land of don't get your hopes up, spring's not coming until May.

For now, though, sunshine and maybe even a swimsuit are in my very near future... once I'm done with the 2 days of work meetings first, that is.

25 January 2018

pin to present: stylish shelves

After seeing the gorgeous styling of the built-in bookshelves on Young House Love, I saved the image to my Pinterest board, thinking I could definitely up my game with my own. And some cold January days seemed like just the time to play around with it...



The color coordinated books is what got me the most excited about this shelf styling, so I decided to take the jackets off of all my hardcovers to get that effect, and then I just matched them up and placed them in different configurations. I eliminated a bunch of paperbacks from the shelves too, to get it looking a bit more polished - a few are getting donated, and the rest moved to shelves elsewhere. But I have quite a lot of books around here, so I had to at least dedicate the bottom of each built-in to a whole row of paperbacks so that I have somewhere to store them.

To finish it off, I pulled a few odds and ends from around the house. Despite the fact that it's not that easy to locate a particular title anymore (but oh well, I rarely re-read anyway), this was overall a fun - and free! - way to freshen up this room a bit (see the rest of the living room here, if you're curious!).

24 January 2018

watching lately: Netflix

I must say, I was kind of contemplating cancelling our Netflix subscription because it hardly seemed worth it (I mean, the rare times I actually want to watch a movie, it's never one available on there). But Peter - and sometimes Hendrik - uses it enough that it's still around, which I recently became happy about, because...winter. So here are some things I've enjoyed curling up with lately on Netflix:


The Good Place: I had been interested in this sitcom before it premiered on TV, but forgot all about it until it popped up on Netflix and Peter recommended it. The main character, played by Kristen Bell, dies and ends up in "the good place", this wonderful utopia (think kind of a comedic Pleasantville) where only the top do-gooders show up. Only she actually was kind of a jerk in real life... and comedic chaos ensues as she tries to learn to be good, so nobody will discover the error and send her to the bad place. If you like shows like Parks & Rec, this would be up your alley with a similar kind of humor/joke style. A fun one.

Broadchurch: I had already previously watched seasons 1 and 2 of this British crime drama, so I was excited to see a new season available - and season 3 is a good one (though you'll want to start with season 1 if you've never watched any, as some storylines continue all the way). I love that each series covers one case handled by these two detectives that have the perfect prickly but underneath strong relationship, rather than being an open-and-shut storyline in each episode. And the scenery of this British town? Wowza. I'd almost watch it just for that.

Jerry Before Seinfeld: if you like Jerry Seinfeld, you've probably watched this already - but if not, do it! Part standup show, with all his usual kind of observational humor, and part autobiography showing how he got into comedy, and what he was like when he was just Jerry, before Seinfeld.

Godless: is not the genre (western) I'd usually have interest in, and is a much higher body count than I can usually stomach, but I heard it highly recommended and have been giving it a shot. Set in 1884, it has a lot of the classic things you might expect from a western - a cowboy, an outlaw, a sheriff, all chasing around on horses - but an interesting twist in centering on a frontier town inhabited and run mostly by women, after the men died in a mining accident. The scenery filming is gorgeous, and I think it's all really well done. Michelle Dockery of Downton Abbey plays this rugged, gun-toting widow and is one of my favorite parts - a surprising comparison to Lady Mary!

My Next Guest Needs No Introduction: another introduction Peter made for me - David Letterman's new interview show on Netflix, which will release a new episode weekly. The first guest being Barack Obama sealed the deal for me. It's a really interesting talk about some of the ins and outs of the presidency, but also about President Obama's childhood, and, importantly, about the Civil Rights movement. It's all a bit more in-depth and serious than I might have expected from David Letterman - though there certainly are funny bits - but I think will be a fascinating series all the same. Up next...George Clooney.


Have you been watching anything good on Netflix lately? I must admit that the one that many will probably mention - season 2 of The Crown - just didn't do it for me. I loved season 1, but eh, some of the storylines in this newer season have just felt kind of boring, so I haven't finished it yet.

23 January 2018

wearing lately: casual cool

Black jeans + black sneakers is one of my favorite combos lately, if only it were more practical to actually wear them outside right now. I think it's just the right kind of casual cool for a work-from-home mom like me.



Also casual cool: keeping it simple with a chunky sweater in a pretty color, and a leather-corded pendant necklace for good measure. My grandma gave this to me from her collection last year - I love how it reminds me of something that might come from Madewell - the kind of cool I sometimes aspire to.

And yet again I'm so pleased that I crossed "learn to curl my hair" off of my life list last year, because it most definitely adds to the vibe I'm looking for. It might not be as monumental an item on the list as "visit Greece" or "read 100 books in a year" but it sure does come in handy in everyday life...

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19 January 2018

five things Friday: loaded cart edition

I think the online version of window shopping is adding things to my virtual cart and then just leaving the site without purchasing. There's something about letting myself put in all of the things I'm interested in that satisfies that urge to just do some browsing retail therapy, without actually needing to buy.

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Don't get me wrong - I make plenty of online orders (these workout leggings were a recent totally worth it one, I have to add) - but often I can be pretty good about loading up and then just letting go. So these are 5 things that caught my eye recently that I realized I didn't need, but it was fun to have them in my cart and consider the possibilities for a while, anyway... Fun for a Friday.

What have you been browsing lately?


18 January 2018

pin to present: preschooler responsibility chart

After a few mornings of meltdowns about Hendrik even trying to put on his own socks, and then one particular emphatic refusal of a request to open the back door and let the dog back in (and he was right next to the door!), I decided to turn to Pinterest for some help in motivating my preschooler to take care of his own things, and maybe even to start learning some household responsibility...


And I found all kinds of great ideas for chore charts, from simple sheets like this to more elaborate DIYs. Since I already had once come up with a sticker chart for meal time (which we no longer use, but it definitely set us on a good path that we remain on in terms of trying new foods, etc.), I decided to go the easy route and just adapt my previous creation into a "job chart" with some basic tasks - along with visual icons so that he can remember what each one is. Bonus that it's no cost and very little time investment, in case it doesn't motivate as planned.

But... so far so good! We're a week in, and Hendrik is excited about getting himself dressed in the morning, seems to love the responsibility of helping to put kibble in Ginger's bowl, and has started clearing his own dishes from the table without even being asked. Of course, it helps that our incentive is to start an allowance for him - after 20 stickers he gets $1, and every day he counts down how many more stickers he needs to get there. So again, not sure we'll keep at this chart forever, but I think it'll definitely help us cultivate some attitudes and habits that will be helpful in the long run.


If you are looking to get your preschooler going on some jobs around the house, I definitely suggest trying this - you can find all sorts of freebies to download (like here or here or here), and also lots of helpful ideas for what tasks would be appropriate for the age (like here).

17 January 2018

around the house: our new kitchen!

Well, it's taken me just about as long to get around to shooting/editing photos of it as it was to have it demo-ed/rebuilt, but at long last: our new kitchen! Just after it was finished, I saw a "trends that are no longer in for home design in 2018" type of story, which included white kitchens - and I felt momentarily dismayed that I just built one of those, and it's "out already... But then I remembered that this is my house, and white cabinets + white subway tile will never cease to make me happy. And I've got loads of those now:


We didn't change the layout at all, but pretty much everything is new - cabinets, floors, appliances, backsplash, lighting (just the floor boards remained the same, but the black paint on them was sanded down and a gray stain put on instead, and in the dining room too). I was trying to come up with my favorite thing about this light and bright and shiny new version - though seriously, that all is winning in and of itself when you see the previous distressed cabinets and painted black floors - but I'm so thrilled with the whole thing that I really can't decide...

The carrara marble that made me swoon the minute I saw the slab? The gloriousness of new appliances (including these genius "melt" and "soften" settings on the microwave that I use all the time for baking, and the cleanliness that is a never-been-used clean refrigerator drawer)? The 60/40 divided sink instead of the 3-section one that was soooo dysfunctional, plus the low divide that makes washing baking pans so much easier? The refinished floors in a shade of gray I'm in love with? The pantry section that has super functional drawers and looks more like a piece of custom furniture than a never-ending cabinet section like it used to?

I love it all. Which is a good thing, because this was a serious project...living for 2 months with no kitchen sink is no joke. And don't even get me started on wood floor refinishing, a week+ process that meant not being able to set foot in the kitchen (which by extension meant walking through the front door and around to the garage to access the basement to do laundry). Now that it's done... worth it! Read on to see a long list of sources for everything and some scary "before" photos:

16 January 2018

wearing lately: winter florals

I gravitate toward neutrals in the winter, and I really do love my whites and camels and grays for this time of year, but sometimes in January with the pasty skin and gray skies, a girl just starts to feel a little drab, you know?



Enter a winter floral. Something with a black background but a little pattern and color to liven things up a bit - but still goes perfectly with the neutrals of course (also have a scarf similar to this that has does excellent work along these lines). I layered this one up with a sweater blazer that I love for a bit of warmth without so much bulk as the oversized cardigans.

All in all, perfect for a winter weekend day-date to (finally) see Star Wars. Movies with high body count are not my thing, but I make an exception for Star Wars - and I thought this one was quite good!


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15 January 2018

18 in 2018

Halfway through January seems a little on the late side to be posting any sort of resolution stuff for 2018, but in my defense - having a terrible cold for the first week+ of the new year, plus feeling totally beat down by winter weather already, made me feel very little motivation for rah-rahing any grand plans for the year, so I initially frowned when my mom asked me if I was doing a "18 in 2018" list. But now that I can breathe deeply (without coughing) again, and I've actually needed sunglasses 3 times in the last week, I'm ready to take on a list of 18 things to help me make 2018 a great year personally.



Here's what I've come up with (in no particular order of importance):

  1. Learn to apply eyeliner well
  2. Have a one item in/one item out closet policy
  3. Get a new stamp in my passport
  4. Train for a race
  5. Check one big house project off the list
  6. Hold a garage sale
  7. Do a wine tasting
  8. Bake a chocolate chip Tollhouse pie
  9. Visit Cincinnati friends
  10. Read a classic
  11. Plan a friend date once per month
  12. Submit applications to websites for home tour feature
  13. Bike outside in each month of the year
  14. Record all new books read with Hendrik
  15. Go to the symphony with Peter
  16. Design a big boy bedroom
  17. Read 85 books
  18. Create Hendrik's year 2-3 year photo albums


Making a list like this for the year (or for something like a 30 before 30) is less to me about resolutions and more about intentions - intentions to do the kind of stuff I always mean to do but somehow never get around to doing, or to be the type of person I would like to be but never quite find time/motivation/energy to push myself to be. A few of these are pulled from my life list, and the rest are new ideas that will be so good for personal growth and/or just plain fun.

Coming up with this list has me excited about what the year could hold... so let's get to it! Do you have goals for the year too?

12 January 2018

five things Friday: you oughta know edition

Kicking off your weekend with a public service announcement...because there are some things I've learned about lately (and am loving) that I think you ought to know about too. Here are five for this Friday:

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1. invisibobble hair ties: much as I love the DIY leather hair ties I made in December, I kind of love these more. They claim that they're not going to leave a kink in your hair after a ponytail, and this is a true story! Game changer for refreshing my hair after a quick workout. Also I love that they take way longer to stretch out than a regular hair tie (and if they do stretch, you can fix them by placing in hot water for a bit).

2. popsockets: I'm late to the game on these, but I love this inexpensive little phone accessory that can serve as a stand/holder but then flatten back out when you're done. Great to prop the phone up when I'm using it as a recipe book on the counter, but even better for maintaining a better grip on the thing in general when I carry it around (if I had the iPhone+ this would be a MUST). I also do a lot of Kindle app reading on my phone, and this makes it so much easier/more comfortable to hold.

3. chapter books for preschoolers: from the get-go I've been looking forward to introducing Hendrik to some of my favorite chapter books from childhood, but I just wasn't sure at what age that might actually be. Thanks to Shea's excellent post with book recommendations and reading tips, I think that time can be now, and I'm so excited about it! With a copy of Charlotte's Web already on our shelves, I think we'll start there.

4. beautycounter sugar body scrub: I'm not usually one to use a product like this - I'm quite low-maintenance when it comes to skin...like I pretty much never even put on lotion - but my mom gave it to me for Christmas, and I am a convert to it now. It scrubs away any winter skin ickiness, but then with the oil in it, I'm also left feeling moisturized.

5. Target gift card exchange: did you know that Target has a program that allows you to trade in gift cards from other stores, and get Target gift cards in exchange?! So if you've got any hanging around from Christmas, etc. that you're not super excited about, get you to Target and get something better. I've got a couple that are going to get me $50-worth of guilt-free trolling the aisles with my red cart.


Anything new and interesting you've learned about lately?

11 January 2018

pin to present: cookies & cream cookies

The day after Hendrik broke his arm, he woke up saying that he was going to have a cookie party to celebrate when he got his cast off. As we all know that I'm a big believer in the idea of a sweets-themed party (pie, cupcakes, ice cream, for instance), I was pretty happy to comply - and thus was hatched Hendrik's "tough cookie" no-more-cast celebration.


So we invited some friends over for cookies - and to see our new kitchen (which I should finally have photographed and ready to show you here next week!) - which was the perfect excuse to try a new recipe from my Pinterest board. And these cookies and cream chocolate chip cookies are very worth a try.

The addition of a pudding mix makes them super soft in a good way, and then there's the delightful crunch of the cookies & cream Hershey's bar that's mixed in. I forgot how dang good those things are. Only warning is that if you have any new year's resolution that would be broken by eating a lot of cookie dough...you should probably not make these. So. Good.

10 January 2018

reading lately: working girl

A common thread among a group of books I've (mostly) enjoyed recently is how the narrative drive comes from the particular job of the female protagonist. As a working girl myself, I think the work/life balance is interesting as part of a story, but even more than that I love a "behind the scenes" kind of look at interesting roles like news anchors, bookstore owners, or even White House deputies. If you do too, check these out:


Amanda Wakes Up
Amanda Gallo has always dreamed of being a morning talk show anchor, and with the launch of a new network - FAIR News - she lands the job of her dreams. But as the show launches, she starts to find her journalistic ideals compromised by the quest for great ratings, especially as a presidential campaign with a wild-card former actor candidate heats up. And then of course, there’s her personal life, juggling political opinions of friends and family with her quest to be balanced on air, receiving mean tweets from viewers, and figuring out how to manager her love life when she has to wake up at 4 in the morning… I must admit, I was surprised by how into the story I got. I didn’t love the character of Amanda at first, and some of the news/politics stuff felt a little preachy about being moderate, but midway through I just got totally sucked in - a fairly light read (so I enjoyed that for what it was), and super fascinating if you like an inside look at high-profile kinds of jobs like morning show news anchors. The author is a co-host of CNN’s morning show, so she’s got first-hand experience for writing this book! And I have to say, it was eerie how much the political campaign storyline mirrored our latest presidential election with the smart but maligned woman on the left and the reality TV buffoon on the right - especially eerie when you read the author’s note, that she wrote the book before all of that went down - but an interesting way to think through some of the issues/feelings surrounding that real-life election. (Review copy received from Blogging for Books.) 3.5/5 stars


The Assistants
Starting with the following premises - “Rule #1: All important men have assistants. Rule #2: Men rule the world. Still. Rule #3: There is enough money. There is so much money.” - in this story, the assistants (read: young women) of a multinational media conglomerate band together to redistribute a little wealth, after Tina Fontana, assistant to the head of the corporation, inadvertently receives double reimbursement for a large business expense, leaving her with enough money to pay off her long-lingering student loans. Deciding to use the money to ease that burden of debt leads to a burden of guilt – and also entangles her into a scheme to fudge receipts to pay off other assistants’ loans, after a few women catch on to the accounting anomalies. A bit madcap at times, but also an interesting take on the treatment of women in a corporate workplace. If you liked books like Everybody Rise or Startup, I’d guess you’d enjoy this book as well. Like those, I found it a compelling and entertaining read and something very of-our-times, though the story might make me squirm occasionally because I’m such a rule follower who can’t imagine getting caught up in things like this (which is why my life would make for totally boring fiction…). 3/5 stars


Sourdough
Not long out of college, Lois Clary moves across the country to San Francisco after landing a job at a prestigious robotics company, but once there she finds that a life of eating, sleeping, and coding (but mostly coding) is drudgery, with no friends, no chance to take in a new city and the enjoyable things it might offer. This all changes when she receives a flyer from a mysterious takeout place run by two brothers whose amazing soup and sourdough change her world. When the brothers move away and leave her with their sourdough starter, she starts to learn to make bread, after having never cooked anything in her life (and existing on Slurry, a meal replacement favored by fellow workaholic programmers) - and her bread turns out to be amazing. Maybe she’s found her calling, or at least some happiness, along with a new group of friends at a sort of underground/”disruptive” farmers market, until things start to get a little out of hand with this sourdough starter that almost has a life of its own. Though a fairly light read, it was still an interesting exploration of work vs. passion/job vs. vocation. Like his previous book, Mr. Penumbra’s 24-Hour Bookstore, I found the tone of this one to be intelligent but delightfully whimsical in terms of characters and scenarios, somewhat fantastical at times - a lot of fun to read. Like Mr. Penumbra this book also had an interesting mix of technology vs. traditional methods, and how they can be integrated. 3.5/5 stars


The Bookshop on the Corner
Nina Redmond is a librarian who lives a very quiet personal life but loves her daily work of matching patrons with the perfect book - until her job is eliminated as libraries go the way of technology. Without work, and with a lot of discarded library books, she has an uncharacteristically risky idea, of trying to open a bookshop out of a van, in which she could drive around and bring the work she loves to many people. Answering an ad from a small town in northern Scotland, she travels there to test drive a van that seems like it might be right, and then she ends up staying and opening shop there instead of back home - from which new opportunities and new relationships develop, and her life opens up a bit. I picked this up because I am a sucker for any book about a bookstore owner (because deep down, readers are fascinated by this role and kind of want to be it, even if they have no business sense), but I was personally disappointed with it overall, as it just felt too fluffy, with characters not developed all that well, or inconsistently. Again, the “literary matchmaker” idea in a story always piques my interest, but that part of Nina’s story didn’t seem to mesh well with the personal life part of the story, so I ended up kind of meh about it – not for me, but certainly could be enjoyable if you are looking for a very feel-good light read. But if you want a good book about a bookshop/bookseller/power of books, read The Storied Life of AJ Fikry or 84, Charing Cross Road or Midnight at the Bright Ideas Bookstore or The Little Bookstore of Big Stone Gap instead. 2/5 stars


Who Thought This Was a Good Idea?
In this often funny/irreverent/sarcastic/smart book, Alyssa Mastromonaco recounts her time working for President Obama, from his early days as senator to his time in the White House, where she was eventually Deputy Chief of Staff for Operations (a powerful position that we might not even realize exists!). Her stories provide fascinating behind-the-scenes looks at how campaigns and government work, but also about what it’s like to be an individual living that life - and usually those are quite funny stories, like her campaign to get a tampon dispenser installed in the women’s bathroom in the West Wing, or her flare-up of irritable bowels right at the time she was about to meet the pope. It’s part memoir in that way, but also part advice book, great for young women thinking about career, success, and confidence (and even the best packing list!). If you have some Obama nostalgia, definitely pick this up, but even if not, it’s still a really fascinating real account of how things get done in government – and how, despite all of the male ickyness we’ve been hearing about non-stop lately, there are some women kicking butt in powerful positions. 3.5/5 stars


That last one is making me excited to read Thanks, Obama, which I scooped up when I saw a cheap Kindle deal recently - not a "working girl" story but still I bet will be a super fascinating behind-the-scenes look from an Obama speechwriter.

Anyone else enjoy any of these?


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09 January 2018

wearing lately: winter reprieve

With all of the snow and cold of the last month, I'm feeling like around here you might as well not even OWN anything besides sweater coats or snow boots, for all I get to wear anything else in my wardrobe. I can't even remember the last time I could function warmly enough indoors without a bulky layer on top, or the last time it made any practical sense to step outdoors in non-winter footwear.



So. Instead of getting crabby about it (okay, I got crabby at first), I cranked up the heat to 74 and picked out a cuter outfit, helped along by this collar necklace that I've had for ages but haven't worn in a long time. The perfect complement to a few other things that haven't seen the light of day in a while - ankles and my actual figure. Ha!

Back to regular winter programming of thick sweaters next week though, I'm sure.

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08 January 2018

mini me Monday: Hendrik-isms, v.3

I live with a 4-year-old who pretty much never stops talking - and as long as it's not whining or wheedling (these things most definitely happen), it's pretty much always really amusing. A few recent gems, along with some outtake-type photos from our fall family session, to really showcase the goofiness of this kid:


Upon getting wet and chilled at the golf course: I need a blanket. I'm as cold as winter!

The next day, sun streaming through the window in the car: I'm too hot. I'm like Florida!

Riding in the car, discussing whether the posted speed limit was fast or slow: Many highways in New York are 80 and 90 speed limit. Oh, really? Who told you that? I just made it up.

After having been told that no, he couldn't get something from the vending machine at the library: When I get big, and I go to the library to get grownup books, then I'm going to choose to get something from that snack machine.

On his beverage preferences: I only like to drink warm things if they're chocolate. Otherwise I don't like warm milk at all, nowadays.

The day's "pretend" scenario on a random morning: Some families have two moms and some have two dads, so daddy and I can be the two daddy tigers, and you're the baby tiger (you're just a BIG baby). Thanks. And daddy and I will show you which plant you're allowed to eat when you're 31.  ?....?

Upon receiving a response to a request that "maybe we could do that on a night mommy's gone at bedtime": Mommy, do you need a ladies' night out?


On his future career aspirations: I'm going to be a cookie decorator when I grow up, and I'm going to use your kitchen! Oh, really? You're not going to move out? Even to go to college? No, I won't need to go to college - I'm not going to decorate them THAT fancy. I'll just use sprinkles.

But he does have a business plan: I'm going to put a snow plow on the front of my delivery van so that I can bring my cookies to the grocery store first thing in the morning, even if there's snow.

Previous career goals: I'm going to go to medical school to be a doctor, and then a construction worker when I'm too old to be a doctor.


Reported to me after coming home from school:
We're Earthlings and North Americans.

People who live on the bottom of the earth don't fall off, because the earth is a giant magnet! So their feet stick to it. Hmmm, he almost comprehended that lesson.


Funny phrases peppering his conversations lately:
Okay, Mommy, if you say so. Yes, I do.

I just noticed something... By which he actually means, I just realized something.